I finally got a chance to watch the movie The Help and I can’t believe it took me so long to watch such a brilliant movie. Octavia Spencer and Viola Davies gave such sterling performances but I feel Viola Davis deserved the Oscar more than Octavia did.
This movie really got me thinking a lot, my first thought was why white people let black helpers look after their children when their hatred for blacks is so deep. Should you really trust someone you hate so much with your child? I would assume your child is number one on your most important list. I still need someone to answer this question because it really bothered me. If I hated white people with such a passion I would make sure my children were nowhere near them especially in an environment I can control like my home.
The other thought that crossed my mind was do we really do enough for our helpers? Now and again I hear people complaining about how much their helpers eat etc. Many of you can attest to this when you’re at home at the weekend or during a day off you tend to eat more. I can! Helpers spend the day at home and they’re bound to get hungry too so they tend to eat what might look to most of us “madams” as too much. I have to confess I have been one to complain about the chowing happening at my house. Helpers play a humongous role in our children’s lives, like it or not they even shape our children’s moral values, behaviour etc. We need to be careful as to how we treat our helpers their roles might seem insignificant but in actual fact their roles might be bigger than that of mothers who spend all day at work.
So mothers please that extra plate of pap for lunch should not bother you this woman/man spends the whole day with your child/children. I know at the weekend when my helper is away I barely manage running after my kids, cleaning up after them, feeding them and listening to their endless stories when I am trying to watch television. Now imagine this: someone does this job for you 5 sometimes 7 days a week and you get upset when they have one of your eggs for breakfast? Food for thought (no pun intended).
Look after those helpers the better you treat the better they are for your children.